Nov 30 2008
The game of talking on the phone
When she agrees and gives you her phone number. Ask her when she wants you to call her. Its the polite thing to do. If she gave it to you its because she wants to talk to you now. So relax and try not to sound nervous. Keep your cool. Ask her normal questions and talk more about what was previously discussed on the messenger. She expects you to be similar to how you sounded on the messenger but if you get nervous is ok to admit and joke around about it. Try to keep the conversation going no matter what. Ask her about her career or goals. likes and dislikes and compare it to yourself. flirt by telling her how much you want to take her out on dates and how good she looks. Keep the mood of flirting and make sure to include some funny things. the more she laughs and tells you things the more relaxed she’ll be with you.
By this time about 30-45 mins of talking on the phone would have gone by. Now its time to decide what you want with her. If your intention is to date her then make sure you praise her and tell her how you want to keep talking to her. If you feel that shes not your type or you dont like her than be nice and compliment her and excuse yourself by saying you got to go and will talk later. Dont clarify if its the phone or messenger, that way you can talk to her on the messenger only if thats how far you want things with her.
Things to avoid: No matter how hot you think she is and how turned on you are with her dont have phone sex on the first call. She’ll regret it later and will think that you only want her for that. So if you like her hold yourself and end the call in a positive. “Its great talking to you, can i call you tomorrow?” or something. That way you’ll know for sure she wants to keep talking and besides there will be other chances. If she cant talk the next day ask her when she wants to talk to you. Being cool about it and taking no offense shows that you like her but is not desperate. Desperate is close to stalker and that’s the last thing you want a girl to think of you. So if she doesn’t know when you can talk again, then wait for her at the messenger or call her the day after tomorrow on the phone, just to say hello and whats up. She’s probably making up her mind about you and just calling her to say hi, a quick call, will let her know she’s still in your mind. If she sounds unexcited and kind in a hurry to get off the phone maybe she doesnt want anything with you and it might be hard to accept but she’s not interested in you. Which means you can look for another girl. Never be discouraged. Rejections happen and you’ll gain more experience to look for the right girl. Theres many girls outthere so keep your chin up and keep looking.
